I learned early on, and I am very thankful for this, that life will come at you whether you like it or not and whether you are ready for it or not. With that, at its core, you are given two options. You can either accept what happens and deal with it with a positive attitude or get mad at your circumstance and deal with it with a bad attitude. I realized that my attitude could not change the past. However, it could change my future and if I am given the choice I prefer my future to be positive, not negative. So, I do not dwell on the bad that happened but instead focus on what I need to do improve my future.
We are all given the same choice with every encounter we have in life regardless of whether or not you have control over the situation. The one thing you have control over is the way you react and how you choose to move forward. I hope you choose to smile, because it helps, and take the positive path. I know that life is more fun to live with a smile on your face and if you give it a try you may agree.
I feel that it is only fitting that my first post be one of the first stories I ever heard that started me on my path to having a more deliberate positive attitude with life.
The Mayonnaise Jar And Two Cans Of Beer
When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, just remember this mayonnaise jar and the beer story:
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous “yes.”
The professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things–your family, your children, your health, your friends, your favorite passions–things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. “The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else–the small stuff.
If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house, and fix the disposal.
“Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented.
The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of beers with a friend.”
This story can obviously be interpreted in many ways and the beer can be replaced with wine, juice, water, or whatever liquid fits for your life. I hope this story put a smile on your face and provided some new insight.