Happy Mother’s Day

Today is a day that is easy to be happy about. Today we get to celebrate our mothers. So, if you are a mom thank you for all you do for your kids. If you are fortunate enough to be able to talk to your mom, let her know how much you appreciate her and all she has done for you. If you can’t speak with your mom today that doesn’t mean you can’t remember and/or share a happy story about her. 

I hope today is a happy, peaceful, and relaxing day with lots of smiles. 


Friday is here and we know that is almost everyone’s favorite day. Why? Because it marks the end of the work/school week and the beginning of two days of freedom to do, “what you want.” When I think about it I can’t get past the, “two days of freedom.” Why only two days?

What if every day could be like Friday? What if I told you there is no reason for Friday to feel different than any other day? What would you think if I said you didn’t have to be crazy rich or retired from your job for this to be a reality? What if I said it was all in your head and you could start living that way today?

I imagine you would laugh at me. You might even tell me that I live with my head in the clouds. I would tell you that you can label it however you want but it’s true. It really is as simple as making the active decision to love every day as much as you love Friday. Here is the tricky part. It is as difficult as loving every day as much as you love Friday. That’s right, it is easier said than done. I would even go so far as to say that it could qualify as a second job. You have heard the sayings just like I have, “if it was easy everyone would do it,” and, “things worth doing/having must be earned because they do not come free.” Here is the good news though. Every day that you successfully go into with the same positive attitude as you do a Friday makes the next day that much easier.

There is a book by Dr. Shad Helmstetter called, “What To Say When You Talk To Yourself” that I highly recommend you read. You can get it in paperback, hardcover, or electronic for the Kindle. It illustrates the point that I am trying to make here. When you are ready and you decide that today will be as good or better than any and every Friday you eagerly await for. That is when you will start to have more positive future.

There is a lot of truth to my claims above and I agree with the statements that we all have heard. Happiness and the better things in life are not given to us. We must seek it out, embrace it, and share it. Yes, share it! For a multitude of reasons. First, I feel it is harder to find happiness if you are not willing to share it with others. Second, when you find happiness, why wouldn’t you want to share it?

I know this may seem like a daunting task. I have been there myself. Try to remember life is a marathon not a sprint. So, start small. Wake up every day and smile. Even when you feel like there is no good reason to, smile anyway. Someone else may need your smile to help them through their day. I guarantee if you continue to do that and then look back on your life after a week, month, and year you will see positive changes and you may even realize that you are smiling more without even realizing you are.

I hope your weekend is the happiest weekend you have had up to this point!

Mayonnaise Jar & Two Beers

I learned early on, and I am very thankful for this, that life will come at you whether you like it or not and whether you are ready for it or not. With that, at its core, you are given two options. You can either accept what happens and deal with it with a positive attitude or get mad at your circumstance and deal with it with a bad attitude. I realized that my attitude could not change the past. However, it could change my future and if I am given the choice I prefer my future to be positive, not negative. So, I do not dwell on the bad that happened but instead focus on what I need to do improve my future.

We are all given the same choice with every encounter we have in life regardless of whether or not you have control over the situation. The one thing you have control over is the way you react and how you choose to move forward. I hope you choose to smile, because it helps, and take the positive path. I know that life is more fun to live with a smile on your face and if you give it a try you may agree.

I feel that it is only fitting that my first post be one of the first stories I ever heard that started me on my path to having a more deliberate positive attitude with life.

The Mayonnaise Jar And Two Cans Of Beer

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, just remember this mayonnaise jar and the beer story:

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous “yes.”

The professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things–your family, your children, your health, your friends, your favorite passions–things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. “The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else–the small stuff.

If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house, and fix the disposal.

“Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented.

The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of beers with a friend.”


This story can obviously be interpreted in many ways and the beer can be replaced with wine, juice, water, or whatever liquid fits for your life. I hope this story put a smile on your face and provided some new insight.